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My husband is 58 years old. His father just died at 83 and he had Alzheimer’s disease. During the last three years, my husband changed significantly. He is antisocial, sometimes refuses to see our best friends, screams and rages at people if he thinks they have done something wrong. I have become terrified of his raging outbursts that can be brought on by the most trivial of things. He constantly blames me for the outbursts and I have been documenting his behavior to try to understand what is happening. My 17-year-old son has left home because of his father’s raging and he tells me to stop blaming myself. I wonder if my husband has Alzheimer’s disease. He would go out of control if I suggested to him that there may be something wrong with his behavior and that he should see a doctor. [ 07/11/11 ]

Your husband's behavior is certainly uncharacteristic, but it does not necessarily mean that he has Alzheimer's disease. There could be many different explanations for his violent behavior, some medical and some psychological. Going to see a doctor would be about the best thing he could do for himself and your family, because he may have a condition that requires treatment. The sooner he is evaluated, the sooner necessary treatment can begin.

The trick then, of course, is getting him to agree to see his doctor. You could try telling him that you love him and are concerned about his health. You don't have to be specific about what you have observed, just say that you recognize that he has been under a lot of stress lately (understandably so, considering he just lost his father) and you are concerned that all the stress is bad for him. Tell him that you would feel less anxious and worried if he were to have a check-up to make sure everything was okay. If he refuses, then back off for now and do not nag him, as this may cause him to become violent.

Alternatively, is there someone whom your husband respects enough to take advice from? Perhaps a sibling, boss, co-worker, friend or clergy perhaps could make the suggestion on your behalf (yet possibly leave your name out of the conversation). Coming from someone else, he may be more inclined to see a doctor.

In the meantime, because of the potential danger your husband represents to your safety, you should consider contacting a domestic violence hotline for advice, such as the National Domestic Violence hotline at 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233). Because at this point we are not sure whether your husband's outbursts are something that he can control or whether, for example, some impairment in his brain has impacted his ability to remain calm and rationalize, it is best for the moment to assume that he is not entirely in control of his actions. If you haven't done so already, talk to someone you can confide in and let them know your situation. Have a plan in place that you can go and stay with someone else if you ever feel that your safety is truly threatened.

My mother has mild Alzheimer’s disease. Is it better to give her details of upcoming trips and activities (some of them several months in advance), or would it be better not to give her anymore information other than her daily itinerary? If we give her the information in advance, we know that she will not remember it. [ 06/21/11 ]

Don't think of it in terms of telling your mother to help her remember an upcoming trip or activity; think of it in terms of telling her so that she can prepare for the unexpected. Changes can be scary and anxiety-ridden for cognitively impaired Alzheimer's disease patients. Travelling can be particularly frightening, because it often involves long vehicle trips (car or bus), airplane travel (and sometimes invasive airport security checks), variations in mealtimes, disruptions to a patient's regular schedule, and sleeping in a different location. These all may seem minor to you, but to someone who sometimes cannot remember a conversation that occurred five minutes earlier, it can be downright disturbing (and quite disorientating) to wake up in a strange bed in a strange room and not know where you are or how you got there.

Therefore, anything you can do to help prepare you mother for the upcoming events would be helpful. You certainly can mention the events/trips in advance (we'll be spending the holidays at cousin Sally's this year), but like you noted, it is unlikely that she will remember these statements. Mark the activity or trip on a calendar that your mother can see and be sure to point it out to her. About a week beforehand, you can start crossing off the days until the activity, and remind her that it will only be X number of days until the event, etc. You most certainly will have to repeat yourself multiple times. But hopefully with all of that repetition some of your message will get through to your mother, so that it won't be such a big a surprise or disruption when the event actually happens.

My mother has end-stage dementia as a result of Alzheimer's disease. I want to know if she is suffering emotionally at all. When I’m with her, she just looks around, eats, and smiles at times. She cannot talk or walk. Do Alzheimer’s patients have lucid moments? I would be terrified to know that she has lucid moments, tries to speak and cannot get the words out. Please help. I really need to know if she is suffering. [ 06/20/11 ]

A patient in the final stages of Alzheimer's disease is unlikely to be aware of her state, and therefore is not suffering emotionally. Sometimes occasional moments of lucidity can occur in such a patient, though this is rare. If your mother does ever become lucid enough to become aware of her condition, she most likely would be able to communicate with you as well at that time.

My husband is living in an Alzheimer’s disease home. He tells me that he thinks we should get a divorce because I don't come and see him, and that he doesn't know what I am doing all day. He is very angry with me. I see my husband every two days because he lives at the home, which is one hour away from our house. I remind him about the days that I will be back to visit, but he can't remember or understand this. He tells me that I have been gone one week. He thinks I have boyfriends and all kinds of crazy things that don't fit my personality. He has been married before, and I wonder if he knows which wife I am. I truly don't know how to handle this situation that seems to be getting worse every day. [ 06/17/11 ]

Because of the nature of the disease, Alzheimer's patients often can suffer from paranoia or suspicions that people are cheating on or stealing from them. You will have to provide continual calm reassurance that you love your husband, visit him as frequently as possible, and have no plans to see other men or act uncharacteristically. Your husband clearly does not have a good perception of time. Therefore, when you say that you will be back in two days, you might as well say two weeks or two months, because this is what it probably feels like to him. He probably feels anxious when you are not there, which is likely the cause of his behavior to you. For example, when he feels anxious, he may lash out at you verbally. Give him a calendar with the days you are planning on visiting clearly marked. Ask a member of the staff to help him to mark off the calendar on the days you are not there. This might help to reduce some of his anxiety. Continually reassure your husband that he is loved, cared for and appreciated no matter what. And remember that it is not him saying the hurtful things, it is the disease.

Both my great-grandmother and grandmother died of Alzheimer's disease, so I am greatly concerned for my mother's well-being. Recently, she has become combative when I question why she can't remember recent conversations that we have had. She is 57 years old and quite stubborn. How can I help get her to a doctor? Any advice will be appreciated. [ 06/16/11 ]

Although your mother is only 57, she may be experiencing an age-related decline in memory that is considered “normal.” On the other hand, she may genuinely have some mild memory impairments, which she may already be aware of, and perhaps this is why she becomes defensive when you question her. However, it may be premature to think that she has Alzheimer's disease even though at least two relatives were diagnosed with it. Memory problems can result from a wide variety of causes, such as sleep disturbances (insomnia, sleep apnea), depression, hormonal imbalances, vitamin deficiencies, drug interactions, head or brain injury, stroke, and even viral or bacterial infections that affect the brain (encephalitis). Many of these conditions are treatable, and upon treatment any memory deficiencies associated with the conditions will also often be resolved. Therefore, the best way you can help your mother at this point is to have her schedule an appointment with a physician for a checkup and memory screening test. If your mother's memory is impaired (more than normal aging can account for), a proper diagnosis can mean that she can receive the appropriate therapy for whatever might be the cause of her condition.

Of course, this will require actually getting your mother to the doctor, which may be a challenge, if she is as stubborn as you say she is. Any way you can get her there is fine, even if you have to bribe her to go. Another approach is to tell her that you are concerned about her overall well-being (perhaps do not mention the memory problems because she is already sensitive about this) and would feel better if she had a check-up from her doctor. Volunteer to take your mother to her visit. If she does not want you to accompany her, you can always call the physician's office ahead of time to inform her doctor of your concerns and that they should be on the lookout for memory problems. If this method fails, you could try making an appointment for “yourself” and ask that your mother accompany you, because you are anxious and do not want to go alone. Really, the appointment is for her, but she won't know that hopefully until you're already in the exam room. You can ask the doctor to “mock” examine you and, having finished, turn to her and say “since you're here, let's look at you too.” You'd have to have a pretty agreeable doctor to play along with the act in order to pull this trick off, but it could work.

My mother has Alzheimer’s disease, and has begun to have episodes of staggering and walking unsteadily. She looks like she is drunk and shakes badly. Are these symptoms common in Alzheimer’s disease? She reports feeling dizzy during these incidences, which are occurring more and more frequently, and seem to last from 20 to 40 minutes. [ 06/16/11 ]

Vertigo caused by inner ear disturbances is very common in older adults, and can cause dizziness and an inability to walk steadily. However, vertigo is unlikely to cause shaking on its own. Also, because vertigo can be so disturbing to a person (probably even more so to a person with dementia), it could be causing anxiety attacks, which could lead to the shaking that your mother experiences.

Sometimes the medications that are commonly prescribed to treat Alzheimer's disease, such as memantine (Namenda®) or rivastigmine (Exelon®), can cause side effects such as dizziness (which would cause unsteadiness) and shaking or trembling of the hands or fingers. If your mother recently started taking one or both of these medications, you may want to revisit the dosages with her doctor.

It is also possible that your mother may have another neurological issue on top of Alzheimer's disease (AD). It is not uncommon, for example, to see AD patients with mild Parkinson's disease (PD)-like symptoms, and vice versa (PD patients with mild dementia). It really just depends on which area(s) of the brain are affected by the disease. Seizures can also cause shaking and loss of muscle control, and can occur as a result of AD. Because of the length of your mother's episodes (20 – 40 minutes), however, the shaking is probably not due to seizures, which typically will resolve themselves within 5-15 minutes or less. And it is also possible that you mother may be experiencing mini-strokes that are causing her to feel dizzy and unsteady. Therefore, it is important that your mother be properly diagnosed by her doctor to determine the cause of her dizziness and shaking so that, if necessary, she can receive the appropriate treatment.

My mother has Alzheimer’s disease, and I have been told that she is in stage six. She has been living in a facility and has full medical team support. She often just stares in to space, as if she is thinking. Yesterday, she was very alert, and her memory was just like it used to be a number of years ago. Before someone loses their memory completely, do they sometimes have episodes of remission? [ 05/13/11 ]

Because of the nature of Alzheimer's disease, it is certainly possible for a patient to have brief moments of clarity interspersed amongst long periods of confusion and forgetfulness. Depending on the areas of the brain damaged by the disease, it is also possible for a patient to retain certain memories (recognition of specific people and events, for example) up through the final disease stages. While the disease in general follows a progressively degenerative course, the specific symptoms and their severity are typically unique for each patient.

Temporary periods of lucidity can therefore sometimes occur in Alzheimer's disease; however, it is unknown what these “remissions” might mean (if anything) as no formal studies have been undertaken to investigate this phenomena. One informal survey of the literature noted that a return of mental clarity can occur shortly before death, which they termed “terminal lucidity.” Of course, this was based on only a very small number of case reports, so it is not possible to draw any solid conclusions from this survey.

My 89-year-old mother is in the late stages of Alzheimer’s disease. She constantly wants to see her mother, who has been dead for almost 40 years. I have avoided telling her that my grandmother is dead, in an effort not to upset her; however, I wonder if she is “hanging on” just so that she can see her again. Maybe she would rest in peace if she knew that her mother has passed on. [ 05/12/11 ]

Alzheimer's disease patients often confuse the past and the present, and may think that someone from their distant past is still among the living. Your mother's continued asking to see her mother might stem from an underlying fear of being alone, or being left behind by those that she loves. The next time she asks about her mother, take it as an opportunity to talk to her about these underlying emotions. Say to her "You miss your mother, don't you? Why don't you tell me about your mother and her favorite song, recipe, or holiday,” for example. Sometimes when you engage Alzheimer's patients in such topics, they become interested in telling you a story rather than repeatedly asking about their loved ones whereabouts. So if you keep her distracted by asking open-ended questions about her mother, then it may become unnecessary for you to directly answer about where her mother is.

However, like you suggested, it may also reasonable to tell your mother that your grandmother has passed away. Be gentle when you deliver such news because it may come as a shock to her—she truly does not remember or understand that her mother is gone. Make sure you provide your mother with plenty of reassurance that she is loved, valued, and will be well cared for. Also, don't be surprised if you have to repeat the whole conversation the next day (or even later the same day). Never yell at her because your mother likely has forgotten what you told her previously.

My 90-year-old mother has advanced dementia. She lives in an assisted living facility, and cannot live with any of her children because she can become violent, aggressive, and has the capacity to harm pets. She broke her hip eight weeks ago, and has been more violent than ever. Also, since her surgery, she should be using a catheter; however, she recently removed it, and becomes violent with anyone getting near her. My mother has a living will that requests no medical care if she becomes violent due to dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. The three children cannot agree upon what to do, and the assisted living facility wants to institute the Baker Act. What are our options? [ 05/12/11 ]

You and your siblings would be best served consulting an attorney who specializes in elder issues, such as one that can be found through the Elder Law Answers Organization. Some legal advice can also be obtained through the Administration on Aging, which can be reached at (202) 619-0724 or at www.aoa.gov.

The assisted living facility where your mother lives may have rules governing the care of their residents who become violent, or pose a threat to themselves or staff, or are otherwise unmanageable. Residence at the facility may be contingent upon agreement to these rules. Instituting the Baker Act may allow the facility to proceed with treatment to manager her behavior so that they can provide her with the care she requires. However, because your mother has a living will requesting no medical intervention should her dementia become violent, then this document may supersede the rules of the assisted living facility. Because the exact requirements for enacting the Baker Act can vary by state, a lawyer in the state in which your mother resides would be best able to answer questions pertaining to your unique situation.

My grandma has Alzheimer's disease. My family is perplexed by her behaviors, which often appear inconsistent with this brain disease. For example, she remembers things, such as the date that my mother is to return from a trip, the time I'm supposed to pick her up for dinner (especially if I'm running late), and that my uncle recently got new puppies. However, she always reiterates that she has no memory. Sometimes, she pretends that she forgot something, and then admits later on that she did not forget. If confronted with this, she pretends she has no idea what I'm talking about. She calls me several times a day wanting to take me to dinner, and when I say that I can't see her until the weekend, she communicates her dissatisfaction with me. Although I'd like to see her more than once a week, she requires constant attention when she is over, and always wants me to sit down and "drink" with her. I’m perplexed, suspicious, and worn out. I welcome any advice. [ 04/28/11 ]

As with any illness, there is certainly the possibility for a person to stretch the truth a little to garner more sympathy from others. After all, who doesn't like a little extra attention from loved ones when they're feeling sick? So yes, it is possible that your grandmother may exaggerate her symptoms from time to time in order to receive a bit more sympathy or attention from you. However, I also wouldn't doubt that she does have real lapses in memory. Your grandmother may be frightened or upset when she realizes she's forgotten something, and therefore seeks reassurance from you and your family.

Along with causing memory and cognition disturbances, Alzheimer's disease can also affect a person's personality, leading to mood swings and uncharacteristic behaviors. Patients who were once easy-going and sincere can become argumentative and even mean, for instance. There really is no way to predict how someone will be affected by the disease. Similarly, there is no way to know which of your grandmother's behaviors are deliberate and which are not. So for your own sanity (and your other family members' sanity), just assume that every uncharacteristic behavior she says or does are due to the disease, then plan your reaction accordingly. If you start with the mindset that her behavior is not deliberate, then you will be in a better position to determine how best you can help her. And don't feel guilty because it sounds like you are doing a very good job. You are being a responsible, considerate grandchild by visiting her regularly and trying to comfort and reassure her as best you can when she becomes upset.

When she starts badgering you to visit her more, remind her what a great time you had at your last visit and tell her how much you're looking forward to the next one (and remind her exactly when that will be). If she becomes insistent that you visit more, just say, “Oh grandma, I really wish I could spend every day with you, but my schedule just doesn't permit it.” Then ask her if there is anything special that she'd like to do during your next visit and try to honor her request as best as possible. Although at times you may feel like getting mad at her for acting up, try your best to remind yourself that her actions are not deliberate and that deep down she is probably just scared and needs reassurance. Getting mad isn't going to help her or yourself, and will just create feelings of resentment in the long run. As much as possible, enjoy this time you have with your grandmother, because there may very well come a stage in her disease when she is no longer able to coherently communicate with you.

In addition, sometimes you just need to remind an AD patient about what you have done together, and how much fun it was, in order for them to cease insisting that “you never visit.” For example, you can try keeping a small journal or photo album of your visits. It doesn't have to be elaborate or expertly designed; it could simply be things such as, “visited the garden today and saw the daffodils coming up,” followed by a snapshot of you with the flowers. This is a very tangible thing that your grandmother can hold and look through when she feels lonely or upset. Perhaps your mother, sister and other family members will want to participate in making something like this as well. Persons who visit your grandmother could write a short note for her to read after they leave, sort of like signing a guest book. Or they could bring something along (a joke, a photo, a poem, a pressed flower, a copy of a favorite family recipe, etc.) that could be pasted into the journal. Your grandmother may appreciate having something like this to keep her company when it is not possible for others to visit her.

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